Resources
Book:
“Why Can’t I Just Leave:
A Guide to Waking Up and Walking Out of a Pathological Love Relationship”
by Kristen Milstead, Ph.D.
More than 60 million people have been in a pathological love relationship with someone who has an impaired conscience (otherwise known as a narcissist). Are you one of them?
Using the stories of survivors and social psychological research on compliance, cognitive dissonance, and thought control, Why Can’t I Just Leave? explains how relationships with pathological partners can create impossible dilemmas that trap you in a distorted dream-state and hijack your thoughts and emotions.
Learn what those who are conscience-impaired don’t want you to know and find out how to wake up and walk out of your partner’s invisible prison forever.
Other Great Books!
Untamed (a memoir by Glennon Doyle)
Women Who Love Psychopaths, 3d ed
Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships
Emotional Regulation Tools and Techniques for Traumatized Kids and Their Frazzled Parents
Narcissistic/Psychopathic Abuse: How Trauma Bonds and Cognitive Dissonance are Related
Narcissistic/Psychopathic Abuse: Common Errors in Treating and Coaching Survivors
Children and Narcissistic Abuse
Parenting is hard enough. When there is narcissistic abuse involved, it can feel impossible. In this two-part workshop series, narcissistic abuse field pioneer Sandra L. Brown, MA helps parents concretely understand the layering foundational effects from pathological exposure and its critical impact on relational bonds in both children and adult children.
EMDR Therapy
“Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing” therapy is EMDR therapy. Although it is often not involving eye movement, it always uses some kind of “bilateral stimulation.”
EMDR therapy may be used within a standard talking therapy, as an adjunctive therapy with a separate therapist, or as a treatment all by itself.
Click below to find out more about EMDR therapy.
Survivor Treatment
This website is mainly for the training of licensed mental health professionals because they recognize the undertraining that has been prevalent in the field and wish to help survivors by training therapists in an evidenced-based, trauma-informed model of care. But take a look at the area of The Association’s website that has resources just for survivors of narcissistic abuse!
One Mom’s Battle, LLC
One Mom’s Battle (OMB) is the intersection of narcissistic abuse and child custody issues. The mission at OMB is to raise awareness and educate family court professionals on post separation abuse as it relates to co-parenting and the family court system. Education on high-conflict individuals and post separation abuse will allow family court professionals to recognize the abusive dynamics that play out in the family court system so they can make decisio
Educate Your Judge
If you are interested in anonymously educating your judge or family court professional (GAL/minor’s counsel, attorney, custody evaluator, co-parenting therapist, CPS worker, PC, special master or your child’s therapist) about the realities of post-separation abuse and high-conflict custody battles, this organization can help.
They also send to schools (teachers, principal’s and guidance counselors) when requested.
Child & Family Services
Child & Family Service (CFS) is a Hawaiʻi-born, impact-driven, community-based organization with a mission of strengthening families and fostering the healthy development of children. Our statewide community programs include preschool education, prevention of child abuse and neglect, programs for at-risk youth, domestic violence emergency services, therapeutic counseling, employment assistance, programs for elder care, and more.
DomesticShelters.org
DomesticShelters.org works to make more people aware of the services available for those experiencing domestic violence and make it faster and easier for victims of domestic violence and their friends/family, as well as program and shelter providers, to quickly find services and information best suited to their location, language and needs.